Yawancin ma'aurata suna fuskantar irin wannan matsalar kamar yadda sha'awar wani yanayi na dangantaka: lokacin da aka maye gurbin kwantar da hankali da ƙauna, al'ada, da rayuwar dindindin. Tabbas, a cikin irin waɗannan yanayi, yana da matukar wahala a kiyaye tsohuwar jan hankalin juna, don haka tambayar ta taso da yawa game da miji / matata? " Da kyau, bari muyi kokarin neman amsa da shi a cikin kayan yau.
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Lokacin da mutane suka fada cikin ƙauna, akwai matakai na sinadarai na musamman a cikin kwakwalwar su, godiya ga abin da akwai ƙarfi mai ƙarfi, jan hankali da sha'awar jima'i na dindindin. Kyawawan, kamar yadda kuka sani, ba zai dawwama har abada ba, tare da hakkinta a hankali ya sauko a kan babu ƙishirwa. Amma menene dalilan rage so? Akwai da yawa daga cikinsu.
Rashin gaskiya daga farkon dangantakar . Gaskiya ce mai daɗi fiye da ƙyar mai daɗi "- sanannen karin magana ya ce kuma yana matukar son amfani da wannan mahallin. Tabbas, sau da yawa bacewar bacewar sha'awa shine saboda farkon abin da ke cikin abokan tarayya da juna.
Lokacin da ba sa ƙoƙarin magance matsalolinsu a cikin jima'i, amma za mu rufe su da fasaha kwaikwayon da fasaha na nishaɗi - kuma wannan na iya zama halayyar biyu don mata da mutane. A zahiri, a kan lokaci, kamar a bayyane kuma abokin tarayya / abokin tarayya yana fara "durƙusuwa" daga ayyukan aure.
Cikakken Idyll a cikin dangi . Sau da yawa tambayar mai ramawa a cikin dangantakar so ita ce da ake kira "ma'aurata mata" a kan asalin ƙauna ta girmamawa da amincin juna. Masu ilimin halayyar dan adam a cikin wannan yanayin suna magana game da parakox na kusancin kusanci: ƙaunataccen sun yi kama da juna, suna da fahimta, amma a sakamakon haka, dangantakar ba ta sami iri-iri ba, ma'ana, dangantaka ba ta sami iri-iri ba, ma'ana, dangantaka ba ta sami iri-iri ba, ma'ana, dangantaka ba ta sami iri-iri ba, ma'ana, dangantaka ba ta sami iri-iri ba, ma'ana, da ke haifar da lalata sha'awar jima'i.
Amincewa da "matar / ma'aurata ba za ta tafi ko'ina ba" . Wannan halin halaye ne na ma'aurata masu aure, na dogon lokaci da ke zaune cikin halattacciyar ƙungiya. Sun fahimci hatimin a cikin fasfo a matsayin wani irin garanti 100% cewa abokin aikin zai kasance kusa koyaushe, har da kasancewar matsaloli a cikin dangantaka.
A zahiri, ba komai bane face mafarki, amma saboda shi ne, girlsan mata da yawa / mata da yawa sun daina biyan bayyanar. Kuma wakilan bene mai karfi mantawa game da m da muhimmanci kananan abubuwa: yabo tare da mata, kyaututtuka. Don gyara matsalar, yana da mahimmanci don fara aiki akan dangantaka, kamar yadda a farkon sanin.
Rabuwa da dabarun "soyayya" da "so" . A wasu halaye, mutane suna rabuwa da juna tsakanin abin da aka makala da kuma kunnawa jima'i. A cikin hotonsu na duniya, a cikin duniyarsu, jima'i da ƙauna ba su haɗu da juna ba, saboda haka suna son ƙauna da gaske / CHMID, a lokaci guda abin da ke gefe ko aƙalla mafarkin da aka yi.
Na dindindin . Suna aiki kamar yadda masu kisan gilla ne don sha'awar jima'i. Wannan matsala tana da halayyar rufewar waɗanda ba su san yadda za su bayyana ba a gaban rabin na biyu, amma shekaru suna ɗauke da ƙaho a cikin zurfin zuciyarsu. Kodayake na yau da kullun bayyana dangantakar dangantaka ta kuma rusa tsohon gusts na jima'i. Don magance halin da ake ciki, yana da mahimmanci a sake karatu don fara girmama juna da kuma yin ayyukan juna.
Karancin jan hankalin jima'i . Wani lokaci daya daga cikin abokan da suke a zahiri suna guje wa dawowar bashin kan Bital dalilai: Ba ya jin isasshen jin daɗin jima'i. Kuma a nan ya riga ya zama dole don fahimta a cikin dalilan gaskiya ga ragi a cikin jan hankalin - don fara da cikakken bincike na likita. Kodayake yana yiwuwa cewa abokin aikinku ba a kula da kyau ba: kuna jin haushi da ƙanshin gumi, ya murmure sosai da sauransu.
Ba daidai ba tsarin hali . A cikin dangantakar iyali, yana da matukar muhimmanci a ce matan da suka fara mamaye matsayi na dama - wato, sun aikata ainihin matsayinsu na gaskiya. Amma yana yiwuwa a lura da bambance-bambancen daban-daban na karkata: bari mu ce lokacin da matar ta fara danganta da ƙaunataccen boyan ba, amma a matsayin ƙaramin yaro, juyawa cikin "inna". A zahiri, a matakin tunani mai santsi, mutum baya barin bayyanar sha'awa ga "iyaye", sabili da haka, jima'i na iya ɓacewa daga dangantakar.
Mace a cikin ƙaddamarwa . Wasu daga cikin wakilan masu rauni suna da tabbacin cikawa cewa idan sun fara cika kowannensu daga aminci, to irin waɗannan ayyukan za su yi sanyi ji. A zahiri, mutum zai iya yarda da irin wannan matsayin, amma sai ya bace wa matar. Dangane da sakamakon, masanyayyaki masu ban sha'awa, sau da yawa a cikin abokan tarayya.
Yin jima'i ba ya kawo nishaɗi . Abu ne mai mahimmanci a wannan yanayin akwai yanke shawara "yanke shawara game da halin da ake ciki - kawai dakatar da su. Wannan misalin mata ne waɗanda ba su koyi game da gogewa da ga maza da ke fama da rashin jin daɗin jima'i ba. Sun yi tunani a hankali suna ba da cikakken saduwa da su gazawa, wanda ke shafar mita (da inganci) na kusancin.
Matsalar halin dan Adam a cikin abokan . Don sha'awar jima'i, abubuwan da ke cikin waje suna da tasiri sosai, kamar damuwa (kuma hakan bazai zama cikin dangantaka ba, amma, alal misali, haɗin mai guba tare da dangi ko kuma ga dangi.
Wani dalili na yau da kullun shine tashin hankali na jima'i ko kuma rashin daidaituwa na rashin daidaituwa, lokacin da, iyaye sun yi wahayi zuwa ga ɗan ƙarami, iyaye sun yi wani abu mai datti, mara kunya da mugunta. Sannan matsaloli tare da sha'awar sha'awar tauraron dan adam ne. Don magance irin wannan matsalolin, ana buƙatar ƙwararren ƙwararren ƙwararren - ɗan adam, ilimin halayyar dan adam ko likitan ɗalibi.
Canja wuri . Ma'auratan da suka bayyana, na dogon lokaci da ke rayuwa a aure, waɗanda suke saba da juna, waɗanda ba su da sani ba don sanin zaɓaɓɓu / ƙaramar ba a matsayin dangi. Amma yin soyayya da dangi ba zai yiwu ba, saboda haka m kusoshi don yin tunani da gangan zama wani abu haram. Wani lokaci Canja wurin lokuta halaye ne na waɗancan ma'auratan da daya daga cikin matan da ke daure a cikin dangi, alal misali, inna ko baba. Duk abin da ya kasance, yana da mahimmanci don yanke shawara don juya ga kwararru.
Yadda za a dawo da sha'awar dangantaka: Shawara ga Mata
Idan ka lura da bata da dangantakar ka tare da ƙaunarka, amma lamarin bai yi matukar muhimmanci ba, zaku iya kokarin halaka komai da kanka, ba tare da amfani da masu ilimin annashuwa ba. Kuma a nan ne masu zuwa daga YaroslaV Samoilv da Lara Lara litvineva za su zo ga ceto.Tukwici 1: Wani lokacin hutawa daga juna
Fahimtar dalilin cuta mai kusanci da kyakkyawar dangantaka yayin aure tsawon aure shine cewa matan aure suna kashe lokaci mai yawa tare. Kuma a farko, da farko ya zama dole, a gaba yana haifar da mummunan sakamako - jin tare da juna.
Masana'antu suna ba da shawara a wannan yanayin don ba da kansu da abokin tarayya abokin tarayya - don kula da motsin rai a cikin ma'aurata. Hillarfin na ɗan lokaci yana da matukar taimako a nan: Je ka tafi mako guda zuwa wani birni ko bari in sanya mata mata. A karkashin tasirin nisa da rashin gamsuwa, daga rashin yiwuwar ganin ƙaunataccen, ji ana lura da shi sosai.
A mafi munin, gwada kawai barci a cikin ɗakuna daban-daban (idan sararin samaniya ya bada damar). Ayyukan da aka jera zasu taimaka muku kuyi bata da ƙarfafa sha'awar kusancin kusanci.
Tukwici 2: Kasance mafita a gado
Fara yayin yin jima'i don bayyana yadda kake jin abokin tarayya, ka lura da duk abin da ka kaunarka, zaka iya amfani da tarurruka masu wahala, tunani, hotuna ko rudu. Kuma, ba shakka, kar a manta da yin magana da ƙaunataccen game da abin da kuke so ko dai ba sa son ayyukansa, yana kula da shi ta hanyar da ta dace.
Bayan haka, idan kun yi shiru, menene alama ce da mijinki ya fahimci yadda zai kawo muku jin daɗin kanku? Sabili da haka, yana da mahimmanci don faɗi yadda kuke ji, baya mantawa da kuma game da yadda abokin tarayya. Rikicinsa yana ba da gudummawa ga karuwa a Libdo, ku kuma ƙarfafa sha'awar 'arnahers, ƙara yawan ingancinsu.
Tukwici 3: manta matsaloli
Babu shakka duk mutane wasu lokuta suna yi jayayya kuma gano alaƙar. Kuma wannan al'ada ce, saboda iyali ita ce ƙungiyar mutane biyu daban-daban suna da ra'ayoyi daban-daban, abubuwan imani, bukatunsu. Babban abin da ke buƙatar aiwatar shine don koyon gafara, sanyawa fushi da manta game da tilasta rasuwar da aka tilasta.Tukwici 4: Kada kuyi tunani game da komai
Mafi sau da yawa, babban abokin gaba na rashin yarda daga kusancin shine tunanin namu game da matsalolin yau da kullun a cikin tsari. Koyi don barin su duka lokacin da za ku yi soyayya da mijina. Don yin wannan, za ka iya tunanin kanka musamman na al'ada, wadda za ta ko da yaushe tune da ku zuwa ga so hanya, da Cire daga kome waje: misali, shan mai wanka da kumfa.
Tukwici 5: Gwada sha'awar kanku
Kuma wannan ba kusan game da karkatar da jima'i, amma game da gaskiya, ƙauna mara kyau ga kanku da dacewa. Duniya a duniya tana da babban madubi da ke nuna mu. Misali, lokacin da muke mamakin wani irin wani mutum - wannan yana nufin cewa ba mu yarda da shi ba, da farko, cikin kanka.
Idan kuna son tayar da sha'awar - fara da kanku da rayuwar ku. Kada ku nemi su samo shi daga abokin tarayya, amma da farko bayarwa. Yi tunani ko kuna ƙaunar kanku sosai? Shin ka isa kanka ka zabi sabbin abubuwa ko kuma tsarin shafawa? Ta yaya gaskiyar ku ta tafi, ku faru masu ban sha'awa ko m, mai ɗaukar hankali a ciki ya ci nasara?
Cika rayuwarka tare da so - Rajista don raye-raye da kuke so, je zuwa yoga, fara gudu da safe. Ko wataƙila kun daɗe kuna mafarkin zuwa wasu darussan, amma ba duka za a warware ba? Lokaci ya yi da za a yi shi yanzu. Nemi darasi a cikin shawa, daga abin da zaku bulla akan cikakken coil. Lokacin da kuka fara rayuwa cikin jin daɗi, kasancewa cikin jituwa da kai, sannan ya danganta da matar za ta kawo karin rayuwa.
Tukwici 6: Ka gaya mani "babu" hadaddun
Yawancin matan suna da babban jerin abubuwan da ba su yarda su yi ba a gado tare da mijinta. Mafi yawan lokuta yana haifar da monotonony kuma sakamakon soma mai sanyi. Yana da mahimmanci a rabu da tabooshin jima'i, a gwada wani sabon abu. Saboda haka, aikin don karshen mako shine saya "Kama Surtra" kuma fara karatun shi, yana sanyin zuciyarsa, yana sanyaya sha'awar sa cikin rayuwa.Tukwici 7: Biya isasshen kulawa ga juna
Majalisar ta farko ta yi magana game da bukatar hutawa daga mutumin da ya fi so, amma lamarin lamarin zai yiwu - karancin lokacin da aka kashe tare da matansa. Sau da yawa wannan yana faruwa lokacin da jariri ya bayyana a cikin iyali, wanda ya ɗauki matar kusan lokaci. Mijin bai kula ba, yana jin superfluous, ba dole ba ne, wanda zai iya tsokanar shi ya tafi hagu. Akwai hanyar fita - ware lokacin don kanku tare da abokin tarayya, komai uzuri. Kuma yara lokaci-lokaci yarda da kakaninta ko, a matsayin wani zaɓi, zaku iya amfani da sabis na cibiyoyin yara na musamman, inda jaririn zai zo ƙarƙashin kulawa yayin da uwa da mahaifin zai hutata daga gare shi.
A ƙarshe, Ina so in ƙara cewa duk wata dangantaka (musamman musamman) aikin mutane biyu ne. Kada ku manta game da shi kuma idan matsalolinku sun isa sosai, yana da kyau a yi rajista don liyafar ta zuwa kyakkyawar masanin ilimin halayyar dan adam, wanda daga baya ya sami kisan aure mai kyau. Yi farin ciki!