Nigute ushobora guhagarika guhangayikishwa no gutangira kubaho? Iki kibazo ntigishobora gusa guhura numuntu ugezweho! Ntabwo rero bitangaje kuba igitabo n'izina rimwe cyanditswe n'umuhanga mu by'imitekerereze y'Abanyamerika Dale Carnegie yamenyekanye cyane mu bihugu byinshi byisi. Muri ibi bikoresho ndashaka kuzana ibitekerezo bimwe na bimwe, kimwe nibindi bitekerezo kuriyi ngingo.
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Twahuye na buri munsi dufite imihangayiko yo mumutwe: mu ikipe ikora, kumurongo wa supermarket, mu modoka rusange, imodoka zitwara imodoka jam, nibindi. Rimwe na rimwe, ntibiruhura rwose murugo, kuko akenshi hari ibihe bitesha umutwe nibibazo bitandukanye.
Hanyuma, ku cyiciro kimwe cyabantu, ihoraho yo mumitekerereze "bihoraho" bikozwe byoroshye, abandi bahura ningaruka zikomeye. Ntabwo ari impfabusa, ubwo bose, bavuga ko "indwara zose ziva mu mitsi", - mu buryo bwinshi ihuza ukuri. Byaragaragaye ko imiti ihanganye ko guhangayika bidakira, kandi bikatera indwara zitandukanye zo mu mutima, mu mutwe no mu mubiri.
Birumvikana ko rimwe na rimwe kugirango tugire impungenge kubwimpamvu zihagije nibisanzwe. Ariko iyo ibitero byimpungenge zidakira bibaye satelite ya buri munsi, igihe kirageze cyo kubitekerezaho. Inararibonye mbi zirashobora kwangiza ubuzima bwawe bwose mugutera ubwoba, aho habaye imibabaro gusa. Kubwibyo, uyumunsi ingingo yo kurwanya induru ifite akamaro, kuruta mbere hose.
Ikibazo gisuzumwa cyitangira ibitabo byinshi. Duhura ingingo zerekeye guhangayikishwa mubinyamakuru nibinyamakuru, amasahani yububiko atanga kugirango ahitemo ibitabo bya miriyoni yibyifuzo, uburyo bwo guhangayika bugusize burundu. YooS, ibyinshi muribi bitanditswe byanditse amateur bifuza gusa inyungu zumubiri.
Muri icyo gihe, hari akazi kagaciro rwose byakozwe naba psychologue bazwi naba psychotherapiste bamaranye imyaka yubuzima kwiga inama zabo. Dale Carnegie nimwe muriyi nyandiko. Izwi cyane ku isi yose ifite psychologue, umwarimu n'umwanditsi baturutse muri Amerika, bashoboye gukora inyigisho y'ubwenge bwa psychologiya y'ikinyejana cye (itangira.
Carnegie yagize icyo akora ku itumanaho ryihariye, iterambere ryinshi ryo kwiteza imbere, imvugo yubuhanga bwo gutumanaho, disikuru, kuvuga ubuhanga nibindi byinshi byaremewe. Ibikorwa bye byungutse byari bikwiye gukundwa cyane mubuzima bwumwanditsi, ariko na nyuma y'urupfu rwe gukomeza kuba ngombwa kandi ubikeneye.
Dale Carnegie "Nigute ushobora guhagarika guhangayika no gutangira kubaho"
Kimwe mubitabo bizwi cyane Dale Carnegie. Muri yo, impuguke ifitanye isano nabasomyi ibitekerezo bye, kuba bafite igitekerezo gusa, ariko ishyigikirwa ningero nyazo. Igitabo gisabwe cyane no gusoma, kuko mubyukuri gifite amakuru menshi yingirakamaro. Hanyuma ndasaba kumenyera umugabane muto.
Icyifuzo cya 1 - Kubaho muribi
Umuremyi w'igitabo yari yizeye ko ibibazo byinshi by'umuntu bivuka kubera kutabasha kuba muri iki gihe, ni ukuvuga, "hano n'ubu."
Nyuma ya byose, mubyukuri, akenshi tuzimye mubihe byashize, kuzunguruka utagira akagero mumutwe wawe ibyo bakoze mbere cyangwa bavuze, bagerageza gushaka amakosa muri ibi, na Coriment kuri bo. Haba kwihutira gutekereza ejo hazaza, uhangayikishwe nibyo bintu biza gusa. Kandi mubambere, kandi murubanza rwa kabiri, ingufu zabuze, zishobora kudufasha kwishimira byimazeyo umwanya wubu.
Kubwibyo, Dale Carnegie yagiriye inama yo gushyira "imiryango y'icyuma" hagati ya kahise hamwe nigihe kizaza, kubaho gusa muriki gihe.
Icyifuzo 2 - Amagambo yubumaji
Ikindi cyifuzo nuko iyo uguye mubihe bishimishije (cyangwa bigomba kuba), birakwiye gukoresha amagambo "yubumaji" yo muri Amerika Yahimbye Cartiera. Aribyo:- Baza mu rugo: "Ni ikihe kintu kibi gishobora kumbaho muri ibi bihe?"
- Kwemera mbere yibi bibi, emera ko abaho.
- Noneho utuje, woroheje gutekereza kuburyo bwo gukumira iki kibazo.
Icyifuzo cya 3 - Ibuka akaga gapfuye
Dale Carnegie yagerageje kugeza kubwumvikane bwabantu kubyerekeye ko ashobora rwose guteza akaga. Iradutera ibyago bidasubirwaho, akenshi biganisha ku ngaruka zidasubirwaho.
Igitekerezo nk'iki cyari gishingiye ku byo inzobere mu gihe cy'inzobere. Kuri bo, yahamijwe umubare munini w'abacuruzi bageze mu zabuto ba mbere basize iyi si bashingiye ku guhangayika.
Kandi ibi ntabwo ari amagambo yubusa, kuko akurikije imikorere yimvururu, umuntu atangira guhangayikishwa no guhangayikishwa no guhangayikishwa no guhangayikishwa, hariho kurimbuka kwa selile zifite ubwoba z'umubiri we. Kandi aba nyuma bagaruwe buhoro kandi ntiboroshye. Biragaragara ko abantu bahangayitse, ni ko bakomeye bagabanya igihe cyubuzima bwabo!
Icyifuzo cya 4 - Gukenera Gutekereza neza
Ushaka kwikingira no guhangayika no kwishima, kimwe no kugabanya ibyogaragaza, ugomba gutsimbataza imyumvire idasanzwe yisi, itanga kumva ituje n'ibyishimo. Ibyiza kubafasha bawe muriyi nzira niyerekwa ryiza kwisi nimyifatire yishimye.Kubwibyo, ni ngombwa kwiga ibitekerezo byiza. N'ubundi kandi, ibintu byose biva mubitekerezo byacu bitera imbaraga zimwe imbaraga zigira ingaruka mubuzima bwawe bwose.
Icyifuzo cya 5 - Itegeko!
Kenshi na kenshi ubudacogora no guhangayika bivutse mugihe umuntu adafite akamaro. Mubyukuri, muriki gihe, ibitekerezo bye ntibiterwa nibitekerezo byose byingirakamaro, kandi imitekerereze itangira guteza ibitekerezo na leta.
Kubwibyo, tubona inama zingirakamaro: urota kubaho nta guhangayika no guhangayika - guhora ari ikintu gihuze. Igikorwa gifatika nigice cyiza kiva "abadayimoni" cyo kwiheba no kwishima.
Icyifuzo cya 6 - Hindura ingeso zawe
Dale Carnegie yatekereje guhangayika akamenyero ko ukeneye kurwana. Kuyisimbuza neza hamwe nindi ngeso yingirakamaro.Yasabye kureka guhangayikishwa na trifles nto, abigaragaza muburyo bwudukoko duto, dutera ibiti byibyishimo byawe. Gusa uzane hamwe no gusebanya mubitekerezo byawe kandi uticujije, guta kure yumutwe!
Icyifuzo cya 7 - Ibitekerezo bishoboka
Wishimiye kumva kubyerekeye amategeko menshi? Ariko, ntabwo bigoye kubona amakuru ajyanye naruseli. Ubusobanuro nuko hifashishijwe iri tegeko ushobora gutwara amaganya no kwishima.
Nigute wabikora? Igihe cyose uzumva ko uhangayitse, ibaze uti: "Ibishoboka byose bizambaho?" Amategeko yimibare minini avuga ibishoboka byose byashoboka.
Icyifuzo cya 8 - Wige kwicisha bugufi
Igice runaka cy'abantu gikomeje kugira ubwoba nubwoya, iyo ibyo batinyaga, byari bimaze kuba. Birakwiye guhagarara kugirango ukore iri kosa kandi wige kwicisha bugufi nicyo byanze bikunze.Niba ibintu byateye imbere kuburyo udashobora guhindura ikintu ikintu cyangwa ngo ugire ibyo uhindura, bivuze ko dufata iki kintu nkatanzwe. Nubwo udashaka ibi na gato. Kandi wibuke ko atari ngombwa ko ureba mbere birasa nkibibi, mubyukuri ni. Ntabwo uzi kurushaho iterambere ryibyabaye.
Icyifuzo cya 9 - Gabanya impuruza
Kugirango ubone kugenzura amarangamutima yawe yangiza, ugomba gushyira "imipaka" kugirango ugenzure urwego rwo guhangayika. Bisobanura iki? Ugomba kwigaragaza wenyine niba ibyabaye bisaba imidugararo? Cyangwa ntushobora kubyitwaramo muburyo ubwo aribwo bwose? Gisesengura rwose ibihe byose kuri iri hame, kandi impungenge bizagenda bigenzurwa cyane.
Icyifuzo cya 10 - Tekereza byinshi kuri abandi
Kenshi cyane, ibitero byo guhangayika bigaragaza mubantu bibanda cyane kumuntu wabo, bakunda Egoisticiscisciscisciscisciscirism. Kugirango ubateze, shyira ibitekerezo byibanda kubantu bagukikije.Kwinjira mu butegetsi buri munsi kugirango ukore ubwoko bwibikorwa byiza ugereranije nabandi. Reka bidakwiriye, ariko ingaruka zayo zizisobanura ko zishimishije.
Nukuri wigaragaje ubwawe ko ibyifuzo bya Dale Carnegie byoroshye cyane mubikorwa bifatika. Uzakenera gusa igisubizo gikomeye cyo guhindura imitekerereze yawe mubino byiza, ndetse no kwifuza bivuye ku mutima impinduka nziza!
Ku giryo
Hanyuma, ndashaka gukomeza ingingo yimirimo ya Dale Carnegie no kuvuga kubyerekeye imbaraga zibitekerezo. Imbaraga z'igitekerezo nimwe mubyingenzi mubuzima bwabantu. Ibitekerezo byacu nibitekerezo byukuri, ibyo bintu bitugeraho abantu bamwe.
Nigute ibitekerezo byacu bifitanye isano no guhangayika no gutinya? Ikigaragara ni uko mubyukuri, ubwoba ntibufite ikintu nyacyo. Afite ibitekerezo, birahari ubwabyo. Kandi kuba dusuzuma icyateye ubwoba no kwishima ntakindi kirenze kwibeshya. Mubyukuri, natwe ubwacu dutera ibintu byubwoba nibitekerezo byabo!
Bari mu mutwe gusa, kandi iyo tubitayeho cyane - yuzuye imbaraga kandi twigaragaza kuri gahunda y'ibikoresho.
Hifashishijwe imbaraga zibitekerezo, ibintu byose birashobora gukururwa mubuzima bwawe, icyo dutekereza. Niba kandi umuntu atsinze gutekereza neza, azagira ingaruka zuzuye ku kuri kwe. Kugirango ukore ibi, ugomba kwiyumvisha ibyo urota, kandi bizashyirwa mubikorwa mubikorwa.
Kubwibyo, ni ngombwa kumva ko tuzatera impungenge zongera guhangayika no guhangayika bibangamira kubaho neza. Ariko ukuri (kandi umwanya mwiza) nibyo, gutera ibibazo, urashobora kuzikuraho byoroshye, ikintu cyingenzi nuko wabishakaga rwose!
Hanyuma, shakisha amashusho ku ngingo: