Uloyiko yimvakalelo yokuzikhusela enikezwe ngokwemvelo. Nangona kunjalo, uloyiko lwendalo lunokuphulukana nokungalawuleki, oko kukuthi, akukho ngqiqweni. Qwalasela umxholo, indlela yokususa uloyiko kwi-subcoonsous: indlela yenyathelo ngenyathelo lenkululeko kwi-phobias engeyomfuneko.
Unyana womhlobo wam wayesoyika kakhulu ukuphulukana nendawo yokusebenza esele igxothwe. Ngenxa yokuba wayenoloyiko, engalingani, enza iimpazamo kwaye esebenzisa kakubi.
Indoda leyo yayilixhoba loloyiko lwayo olwawonakalisa. Iingcali zengqondo zisifunda ngokweenkcukacha uhlobo loloyiko kwaye zinokunceda umntu ukuba ahlukane ne-phobias embi. Kodwa ungazama ukuphelisa uloyiko ngokwakho. Ndiza kukuxelela ngayo kwinqaku.
Ivelaphi
Wonke umntu uqhelene nemvakalelo yokoyika: Isebenza ngokuzenzekelayo emngciphekweni, ukuba uva ukhula olubi lwerhamncwa elinetyala okanye ubone amadangatye akhula. Olu luloyiko oluluncedo, kuyanceda ukuphepha ukufa kwalilize. Ekwemva kwengozi, ubunyani bokuzisela busebenza, uphawu loloyiko.
Uloyiko lwe-ofisi yamazinyo luphakanyisiwe: umntu oye wafumana imvakalelo ebuhlungu ngexesha lokunyangwa kwemida. Kwakhona ukulungisa ukoyikwa utyando ngonyango, kuba umntu uyayiqonda ngaphandle kwentlungu, ayadlula.
Iingcali zengqondo zichonge izizathu ezininzi ezingaphambi kokubonakala koloyiko:
- Ukungazithembi kwimikhosi yabo;
- Ukungaqiniseki kobuchule bomnye umntu;
- amandla omzimba olinganiselweyo (ukukhubazeka);
- abazali abangenaxhala babazali ebuntwaneni;
- amava oxinzelelo lwengqondo;
- iimeko ezintsha zokuhlala (esinye isixeko, elinye ilizwe);
- indawo engaqhelekanga;
- Ukuphazamiseka kweHormonal.
Ukuba umntu akaqinisekanga kubuchule bakhe, usoloko esoyika ukwenza iimpazamo kwaye uhlekise. Okanye usoyika ukufumana ukohlwaya, jonga njengokuphazamiseka emehlweni abanye. Ukungaqiniseki kubuchule babo akubonakali kwikratshi, ngokufuthi, unikwa ngabazali okanye ootitshala ukusukela ebuntwaneni. Ukuba umntwana uhlala edibanisa i-emboss nganye, imvakalelo yokuphefumla iveliswa. Umntwana uyakhula, kwaye naye ukungakhuseleki kukhula kubuchule bakhe nakumathuba, amathuba akhe.
Kwinqaku! Abafazi banobungozi boyika kunabantu. Kuyabonakala ukuba, oku kungenxa yokoyika inzala.
Ukungazithembisi kobuchule bomnye umntu unako ukuwusindisa umphefumlo ngoloyiko. Umzekelo, ukuba kuya kufuneka uhambe nomqhubi ongenamava okanye uthembele impilo yakho kwi-GOSTE.
Iimpawu ezinqongopheleyo (nayiphi na indlela yokukhubazeka) igcwalisa ubomi babo, kuba umntu akakwazi ukuzinyamekela ngokupheleleyo. Kunzima kakhulu ukulahla loloyiko.
Iimfuno eziphezulu zabazali zinyule umntwana ngengqondo. Ukoyika ukohlwaywa okanye ukungabinantlonelo yabantu bomthonyama kubetha ukuthuthumbisa umphefumlo wabantwana.
Indoda encinci yonke inyanzelwa kukulindela ekuvuseleleni okanye isikhalazo esilandelayo sikamama okanye utata. Omnye umntu uyaqhela kwaye akasabeki, kwaye umntu onke amagama amazali aphendula iintlungu ezinganyamezeliyo.
Emva koko, umntu udlulisela ubunzima bokuphefumla kwakhe kubudlelwane nabanye abantu: Ayoyiki ukukholisa ootitshala, iinkosi, izalamane zeqabane. Enye into enqabileyo inokubonakala - ubundlongondlongo kubantu abahlukunyeziweyo.
Phawula! Uloyiko lwasekhaya luhlukile kwiPhobias ekubhengezwe yindalo. Phobia (uloyiko lokuphakama, ezinye izinto, indawo evaliweyo) kufuneka inyangwe kwi-psychotherapist.
I-psychotrams enamava iphazamisane nomsebenzi ngokupheleleyo eluntwini. Ndedwa kunye nabo bahlangabezane nabantu abambalwa. Kule meko, icawe iyanceda (unxibelelwano namakholwa, utata) okanye ukubonisana kwengcali yengqondo okanye i-psychotherapist.
Utshintsho lwendawo yokuhlala lubangela uloyiko kuphela ngexesha lokuziqhelanisa, emva koko le mvakalelo itshintshwa abanye. Ukuphazamiseka kweHormonal, kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo kwi-Endocrinogist. Amayeza aya kunceda ukuzisa ibhalansi yehomoni ngolungelelwano, kwaye uloyiko luyanyamalala.
Uloyiko olungenangqondo
Kodwa kukho uloyiko olungenangqondo, oko kukuthi, umntu uyoyika ukuba akukho xesha okwangoku. Kwaye akucaciswa nokuba lo mngcipheko wengqungquthela uya kubakho konke konke. Umzekelo, umntu uyoyika ukunqandwa okanye ukulahlwa kwalodwa.Uloyiko lokulahla ubomi abaninzi obuqhekekileyo, kuba ngenxa yakhe, indoda yayisoyika ukufumana amantombazana okanye ndicele into ebalulekileyo kuye.
Yoyika into engeyiyo, engenangqondo kwaye iyingozi. Uloyiko lunokutsala imeko umntu bayoyika. Iingcali zengqondo kunye neendlela zenziwe le nto, kunye noochwephesha be-neurobiologicalogicalogics bafunda amathuba obuchopho.
Kukho olunye udidi loloyiko-uloyiko lokungaqondakali, abanye, ngokungacacanga, amnandi. Ngesizathu esithile, abanye abantu baqinisekile ukuba umntu omiselwe ngaphandle kubo unobutshaba kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuzisa ingozi.
Mhlawumbi iingcambu zale mvakalelo zinokholo kwiidemon noMtyholi. Nangona kunjalo, imfundiso yamaKristu yawo onke amakholwa inika umpu onamandla nxamnye nebhokhwe yeedemon - umqondiso womfanekiso. Iidemon, okanye noSathana akoyiki: UYesu Kristu uphumelele kwakudala.
I-psychotechnics yokuphelisa uloyiko
Qwalasela ubugcisa benyathelo lenyathelo lenyathelo lokususa uloyiko kwi-subconsion.
- Ukucinga okukhulu
Xa uloyiko luqala ukuqeshela, kwaye intliziyo iyayigqogqa iimvakalelo ezinosizi, kuya kufuneka ucime iingxaki zakho kwaye ucinge ukuba umntu osemhlabeni unexesha elibi. Mhlawumbi umntu uthile kakuhle ebomini okanye onesifo esinganyangekiyo.
Baninzi abantu kwihlabathi elibi kakhulu kunathi. Ke ngoko, ingxaki yethu xa ithelekiswa nabo ijongeka ngathi ayibalulekanga.
- Yenza isicwangciso sokusebenza
Ukuba uloyiko alufuni kubuya, yithabathe. Khawufane ucinge ukuba eyona nto imbi yenzekile. Yintoni elandelayo? Yenza isicwangciso sokusebenza samanqaku. Xa uyigqibile, kuya kuba lula kakhulu kumphefumlo. Kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye uloyiko luya kwenye indawo, kuba akusekho woyika ukoyika.
- Thatha ukucoca ngokubanzi
Umsebenzi womzimba awuvumeli iingcinga ezimnyama ukuba zithathe umntu. Ke ngoko, phuma ngokucoca ngokubanzi okanye uqalise ukuphosa igadi (ukuba ikhona), okanye ulungiselele ukuhlamba okukhulu. Ukuba wonke umntu ususiwe ekhaya, nceda umntu. Ukuba unqwenela, unokufumana indlela yokulayisha.
- Fumana abantu abanengqondo
Ungayifumana kwi-Intanethi yamaqela anomdla. Kungekuphela koloyiko kuphela, le nqwelomoya yabetha phantse wonke umhlaba wesine womhlaba. Kunye akoyiki ukoyikeka.
- Ukuzola ngaphandle
Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekisile ukuba ifom yangaphandle ichaphazela imeko yangaphakathi. Ke ngoko, bonisa ukuthoba ngokupheleleyo nokuzola 'kwimeko eyoyikekayo ". Zama ukhathalela ngokungakhathali, kwaye unokomelela kancinci. Kungekudala iintlonga zangaphandle zangaphakathi, kwaye uloyiko luyachithwa.
- Phila okwangoku
Uninzi loloyiko lungekamva lexesha elingekafiki. Ukuba uvula ujonge ixesha langoku, akuyi kubakho ndawo yoloyiko. Kuba okwangoku akekho nje.
Indlela yenyathelo ngenyathelo lokuphelisa uloyiko
Cinga ngesicwangciso sentshukumo sokuxolelwa kulo naluphi na uhlobo loloyiko, nokuba luloyiko lokuphakama okanye uloyiko lokunyamalala ngaphambi komntu.- Okokuqala kufuneka ubize uloyiko ngegama, yenza, lonyule. Bhala iphepha lephepha yonke loo nto ikhumbula. Emva kokubeleka kwenani lePhobias yabo, ukubaluleka kwabo kuya kuba bukhulu kakhulu. Ukuba banokubalwa, kuthetha ukuba banokubekwa esweni.
- Inyathelo elilandelayo kukukhetha okona kubi kwaye kugxininiswa kuzo zonke iiPhobias ezidwelisiweyo.
- Ngoku kufuneka uchaze uloyiko ngalunye ngokwahlukeneyo, ngeenkcukacha. Ungalibali ukubonisa kwaye ulwalamano lwakho lweemvakalelo luloyiko. Umzekelo, uyoyika ukuthetha phambi koluntu, kuba siye sabona ibali elingathandekiyo ngokunxulumene noku - ihlazo. Kuyimfuneko ukuchaza yonke into eneenkcukacha. Njengoko uchaza uloyiko lwakho, uya kuqalisa ukuqokelela ulawulo phezu kwayo (emva kwayo yonke loo nto, inokuphononongwa).
- Chaza ingxaki enxulumene nokoyika ingozi. Masithi uswelekile kwaye ufanayo nako konke. Okanye ubetha esibhedlele. Kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba uloyiko lwethu luthatha imvelaphi yabo kwindalo yokuzilolonga. Ke ngoko, xa usebenza ngokweenkcukacha zonke iimeko ezimbi, akuyi kuba nento yoyika.
- Qaphela ukuba awulilo ixhoba loloyiko: Zinikwe igama lokusindisa ubomi. Ukuba uphonononge isimo sakho sengqondo kwi-phobiam, uyakuziphatha kakhulu kwaye uzolile.
Uloyiko usifundisa ngononophelo ngakumbi, ubuqili kunye nokunikela ingqalelo. Aba ngabafundisi bethu. Bhala phantsi kwiphepha, olifundisile iPhobias yakho, kwaye enkosi ngolwazi oluluncedo.
Ungaluphelisa njani uloyiko olungenangqondo
Ungayisusa njani i-alam kunye noloyiko kwi-subconsion? Iingcambu zalo naluphi na uloyiko olungenangqondo- kwi-fantasy up. Umzekelo, umntu oza kufuneka aphaze kwindiza, ngequbuliso eqala ukuhlala ecinga ngengozi yenqwelomoya. Iingcinga malunga noku ziqhutywa entloko, kwaye abanye babona kwanepeyinti yengozi yenqwelomoya.
Le meko ye-pathoical enobunzima kukuzeyisa, njengoko umntu uthathwa ngokoqobo kukungoyiki okungenangqondo. Inqwelomoya okwangoku ayikahambi, kwaye umntu sele eqengqeleka neengcinga zakhe zengozi yenqwelomoya.
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuba uqonde ukuba ingozi yenqwelomoya ayinakwenzeka, kuba inqwelo moya ingabhabhe naphi na. Ke ngoko, woyika into engeyiyo, isidenge nje. Xa le ngcinga ilawula entloko, ungafudukela kwinto elandelayo ukuze ulwe nephobia engacacanga: Ukuqonda ukuba zonke iingcinga zizinto zonke.
Into ekoyike indoda, emva koko yenzeka. Ke ngoko, kuya kufuneka uyeke ukoyika ingozi yenqwelomoya. Ukuba ayincedi, ke kufuneka uthathe umlingo womlingo kwiingozi.
Bhala phantsi lo mthandazo we-shore-kwiphepha elingavalwanga kwaye uthathe nawe ukubaleka. Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe, kufuneka ufunde amazwi omthandazo kathathu. Ukuba uyafuna, unokunyusa inani lokuphindaphinda ukuphindaphinda ukufezekisa uxolo lwangaphakathi. Awukhange ungodwa: UYehova ngokwakhe unawe.
Khumbula uMgaqo obalulekileyo. AKUKHO BONA INDLELA YOKUZIPHATHA UKUZE YENZE UKUBA AKUKHO BUYIYIYIYO ngeemvakalelo kwaye ungathathi njengenyaniso ethembekileyo okanye ukungakwazi. Oku kusebenza koloyiko olungafanelekanga. Kodwa ukuba umntu ubona ingozi phambi kwakhe, le fomula ayiyi kusebenza: kufuneka igcinwe.