Umuzwa wothando ungomunye wabanamandla, kunzima ukutadisha. Kodwa noma kunjalo, i-psychology yothando ikhona futhi yakha indlela ehlukile yesayensi. Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bafunda ubudlelwano bothando ku-pair, imbangela yemvelaphi nokuqothulwa kwemizwa, izigaba zokuthuthuka kobudlelwano.
Udadewethu omncane waqala ukunquma ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe eminyakeni embalwa yokuhlala ndawonye. Babenenkathi yezingxabano, ukungaboni ngaso linye futhi becasulayo. Ukube bekungengenxa yolwazi lwengqondo yobudlelwano, bebezoncibilika. Kepha ngakunye bajula esifundweni sempikiswano yobudlelwano obushadile futhi bathola imbangela yokuqhekeka - ama-hormone. Vele, ingqondo yehluliwe: Ukuthuthukiswa kwama-hormone adingekayo nakho kuya ngokuthi.
Esikhathini esihlokweni, ngizokhuluma kafushane ngezigaba eziphambili zobudlelwano bothando ukuze uqonde okwenzekayo ebudlelwaneni bakho nomlingani wakho futhi kungani.
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Uthando oluvela endaweni yokubuka kwe-psychology alunayo incazelo ethile. Akunakwenzeka ukukhuluma ulimi lwesayensi mayelana nothando, kepha lapha mayelana nokubonakaliswa kwalo - ngicela.
E-USSR, bazama ukunikeza incazelo yesayensi yothando, futhi yilokho okwenzekile. Ngokwemibono yesazi sezengqondo u-A. V. Petrovsky, uthando yile:
- umuzwa omkhulu kakhulu;
- Ngenxa yezidingo zocansi ngokomzimba;
- Kuvezwa esifisweni sokuthola imizwa yokuphendula ngamandla afanayo avela entweni yothando.
Vumelana, kuzwakala kumangalisa. Yize usosayensi ezama ukugqamisa kahle umbuzo ovela kuzo zonke izinhlangothi futhi wabhala iqiniso. Futhi amagama alula angabonakala kanjalo. Umuntu oyedwa wayenomuzwa womunye umuntu, futhi ulindela ukusabela umuzwa ovela eceleni kwakhe. Uma kungekho muzwa wokuphendula, kuvela izinkinga. Lapha bafundwa yizengqondo zesimanje zothando nobudlelwano.
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bacacisa: Kunezindlela eziningi zokubonakaliswa kothando. Izinkinga ebuhlotsheni zivela ngenxa yokuthi abantu batholwa ngokuphelele ngendlela ehlukile futhi baqonde uthando.
Abantu abavamile babona lokhu kuzwakala:
- ukuthathwa ngokomoya;
- umkhuba;
- ukusabela kwamakhemikhali;
- Isifiso sokuvikelwa, ukunakekela;
- njll.
Umuntu ngamunye unencazelo yawo yothando nezizathu zokuthandwa. Lo muzwa uhlelwe ngokwengeziwe ukuthi uyakwazi ukuhlanganisa izifundazwe eziningi zengqondo nezomzwelo kusuka kumnandi enjabulweni ejwayelekile ekutholeni ubuhle.
Uthando alusona nje isifiso esimnandi somuntu oyedwa komunye, kodwa futhi:
- ukunakekelwa;
- inhlonipho;
- ulwazi;
- umthwalo.
Umuntu onothando uhlala ekhombisa ukunakekelwa kokuthandwa ngubani. Izibonelo: Umama nengane, zithandana.
Inhlonipho - isici esibaluleke kakhulu. Ngaphandle kwenhlonipho, ubudlelwano bothando phakathi kwabantu buphenduka ukusebenza komunye.
Buyini ubudlelwano bothando? Kuyavela ukuthi bayadingeka ukuqonda okwenzekayo. Kuyo ulwazi olunganikeli umuzwa wothando lokuguqula futhi uphele.
Ukuzwakala kothando akugcini nje ngokunakekela into yothando lwakhe, kodwa nomthwalo wemfanelo kuye. Uzama ngazo zonke izindlela zokuvikela isithandwa sakhe ezinkingeni, ezinhluphekweni nangengozi. Lesi sifiso sivela emzweni wokwesaba ukuthi kuzokwenzeka okuthile kubathandekayo. Ukulahlekelwa yinto yothando lwakho akubekezeleleki ngothando.
Izigaba zokuthuthuka kobudlelwano
Cabanga ngezigaba zokuthuthuka kobudlelwano phakathi kwendoda ethandekayo nowesifazane. Uma i-Science Yencazelo yothando inikezwa yinkinga, bese ibonisa izigaba zokuthuthuka kobudlelwano bothando kungenzeka. Ngakho-ke, ubudlelwane bothando ku-pair bakhula ngale ndlela elandelayo:
- uthando;
- umlutha, ukugcwala;
- ukunyanyesa;
- Ukuthobeka;
- isifundo;
- ukusondela;
- ukungabaza;
- ubulili.
Uthando luyisigaba esihle kunazo zonke ekuthuthukisweni kobudlelwano. Lezi zingilazi ezipinki, ezothando, ezenza kahle umlingani. Ngeshwa, le mizwa yakhiwa ngaphansi kwesenzo sama-hormone, ngakho-ke akukho okumele kwenziwe ngesici sangempela sento yothando.
Ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zokuphila empilweni, kunesiphakamiso esisekelwe kumlutha. Kuyadingeka ukucacisa: ama-hormone ajwayele, awasaphenduli kumlingani wakho njengakuqala. Kukhona ukuxabana, ukungaqondi, ukuthola ubudlelwano, ukucasuka. Uma abalingani bekwazile ukusinda ngokuphepha kule nkathi ngokukhetha amaqhinga okuvuma, bazohlala bendawonye.
Isigaba esilandelayo sobudlelwano sinzima kakhulu - ukunenyanya. Ama-hormone ake amisa ukuthonya i-psyche, ngakho-ke umuntu owayengumuntu owayengumngane oshisayo uvela ekukhanyeni kwakhe kwangempela - uTerry Engoist.
Uma ngabe ngalesi sigaba kungasebenzisi amaqhinga okuxolelwa futhi ungazami ukuqhubeka nokwakha ikusasa elihlanganyelwe ngenxa yezingane noma enye inhloso, khona-ke lesi sibhangqwana sisabalalisa ngezindlela ezihlukile. Okuyingozi kakhulu kulesi sikhathi ukugxila ukunaka ngqo kokubi komlingani.
Ngubani okwazile ukusinda esigabeni sokungenyela, ajoyine isigaba esisha - ukuthobeka. Intukuthelo ithathelwa indawo ngesihe, abalingani baqala ukuqondana kangcono nomunye nemizamo ehlanganyelwe yokwakha ikusasa.
Isifundo. Ekugcineni, ozakwethu bafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi kwakuyisikhathi sokubukeka kangcono komunye nomunye, bedala ukuthokozela ukuhlangana futhi banikeze nengxenye yabo inkululeko - ukwandisa imingcele yesikhala somuntu siqu.
Ukusondela. Leli yiphuzu eliphakeme kakhulu ekubambisaneni lapho beqala ukwethembana. Izazi eziningi zezengqondo zeluleka ukulungisa ubuhlobo bomshado kusukela ngesikhathi sokusondela ngokomoya komunye nomunye.
Futhi bonke ubudlelwane obubushelelezi obufanayo abuzenzi. Ngisho nangemva kokufakwa kobudlelwano bokuthembana, ukungabaza kuvela futhi. Kepha zingumdwebo omncane ohlukile kulokhu. Abalingani baqala ukucabanga ukuthi, nokuthi umshado wabo uhambelana namaphupho ayesebusheni bakhe? Ingabe wathethelela okulindelwe?
Uma isikhathi sokungabaza siphasisiwe, abashadikazi baqala ukucabanga ngendlela yokwenza impilo yabo yocansi ibe hlukahluka futhi ihehe. Ngenxa yalokho, lokhu kunomthelela ekuqiniseni ubudlelwano nangomshado. Futhi-ke uthando lwangempela luyeza. Abalingani baqala ukuhlala komunye nomunye, zama ukuletha ubumnandi obukhulu. Kulesi sigaba sobudlelwano, ungakhuluma ngokuthembela ngokuphelele.
Ukuhlukaniswa kobudlelwano bothando
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bathi kunezinhlobo eziningana zothando. Bacabangele:
- mania;
- uthando lwabathengi;
- ukuthatheka;
- Thanda kusuka emqondweni womsebenzi;
- ukuzindla;
- okunengqondo;
- Nobungane.
Ukuthembela kwe-Manic entweni yokuvuselela kungokwemvelo kwanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo bothando. Yonke imizwa ikhuliswe, yonke imicabango iphathelene nentandokazi kuphela (oh). Kepha uma isigaba sokuncika kweManiacal sibambezeleka, ubudlelwano butholwa yifomu le-pathological. Sevele isikhumbuza ngokwengeziwe ubudlelwano be-maniac kanye nezisulu kunabathandi.
Uthando lwabathengi luyisimo esivamile ezweni lanamuhla. Uthando lobudlelwano obunjalo lungabizwa kanjalo kanzima. Umlingani nje ubulala nomunye umlingani ngenxa yezinhloso ze-mercenary. Lapho ethola lokho okudingekayo (imali, imizwa, ubulili), ngokushesha kwephula ubudlelwano. Ngoba inyunyana yesikhathi eside ayihloselwe ekuqaleni.
Uthando olunothando noma i-eros. Lolu hlobo lobuhlobo bothando lufana nokuthembela kwe-manic, kuphela ngaphandle kwemiphumela emibi. Abathandi bazulazula bodwa, bafuna ukuthola ubumnandi obukhulu ekuthinteni, abakwazi ukuhlukana ngosuku. Kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lobu budlelwano buhlakazeka, njengoba kuncike ekukhiqizweni kwama-hormone. Isifiso sesilwane asinasisekelo esithembekile, ngakho-ke kuvela ngokushesha.
Uthando ngomqondo womsebenzi luyethembeke kakhulu futhi unomphela. "Ukufa kuphela okuyosehlukanisa nathi" - isiqubulo salobu budlelwano. Izinga elinjalo lobuhlobo liyatholakala ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi yokuphila ngokuhlanganyela, abashadikazi nje ababandakanyi umngani ngaphandle komngane.
Uthando olungokomoya olungenandaba (i-agape) luhlobo lobuhlobo bomama omama. Kepha ebudlelwaneni bothando lolu hlobo luyatholakala. Uma umuntu ethanda enye engathandeki, umlingani wesibili kufanele asebenzise. Ngenxa yalokhu, ubudlelwano buzophulwa lapho umuntu ongenandaba eqaphela ukuthi uyasetshenziswa. Kuphakathi kokuthi othile ovela kwangezingelosi zakwamanye amazwe uzovula amehlo akhe.
Uthando olunengqondo (noma i-PRAGMA) luhluke kwezinye izinhlobo zobudlelwano ngokuthola umlingani onokwethenjelwa. Akukho ukusikisela kothando noma uthando lwe-pink. Umuntu nje ufuna umlingani onokwethenjelwa, ongahamba naye ngaphandle kokuphila futhi athembele njengoba nami. Kulobu budlelwano, ngisho neqembu lezezimali alidlali indima ekhethekile, ukuthembeka nokuzinikela kuphela.
Ubungane bothando noma uFiliya bususelwa ezintshisakayo, ukuvumelana komphefumlo. Abantu bahle ndawonye futhi ngaphandle kobudlelwano bezocansi. Kodwa-ke, lesi ngesinye sezimo zobudlelwano obungathembeki, uma kungaphendukeli uthando. Ngoba ungabhubhisa ukuvumelana okunjalo - noma ngubani ngaphandle.
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bancoma ukusebenza ekuthuthukisweni kwezinhlobo eziningana zama-loveline ngasikhathi sinye:
- ubungani;
- I-Flirt;
- inkanuko;
- umthwalo.
Lapho-ke ubudlelwano buzoqhubeka isikhathi eside futhi buzoba buhlala isikhathi eside.