Ukuzithuthukisa nokuzithuthukisa kuthola ukuthandwa ezweni lethu. Umuntu owaziyo ukwazisa kanjani ngokwanele amakhono akhe, uthola ukuzethemba nakusasa. Umuntu osebenza kuye uhlala evulekele ekutholeni kolwazi olusha kanye nemibono.
Ubukeka enethemba ngekusasa, ngoba uyazi ukuthi angakuthola kanjani. Ungasifeza kanjani lesi simo, yini okufanele uyenze nokuthi uzoqala kuphi? Cabanga ngale mibuzo esihlokweni.
Ngiqale indlela yami yokuya ekupheleleni ngamakilasi e-yoga, futhi intombi yami yathathwa kabi yaba yimikhuba yokuzindla. Kwadlula unyaka, futhi ngiyabona ukuthi washintsha kanjani: kwaba nokuzola, zizethembela ngokwengeziwe, zinciphile futhi zijabulisa kakhulu ukuxhumana. Mhlawumbe kimi, kwakukhona nezinguquko ezinhle, othile ovela ngaphandle uzokuphawula lokhu futhi angitshele.
Ukuthuthuka kwe-Psychology
Kungani udinga ukuzithuthukisa, nokuthi kungani abantu banamuhla becabanga ngaye? Ukuzithuthukisa kuyadingeka ukuze uzibonele, ukuze usebenzise umsebenzi wayo. Okungukuthi, ukuze kufezeke amandla akho okudala, kufanele kuqale kwembulwe. Lokhu kubuye kwabandakanyeka ekuzenzeni ukuzithuthukisa nokuzithuthukisa njengesisusa sokuzibona.
Kungani kufanele udalule lokho okunikezwayo ngenxa yemvelo? Akubona bonke abantu abangabona ukuthi banikezwe yini kusukela ngizalwa. Futhi lokhu kusiza izici eziningi:
- imfundo engafanele;
- ukuba khona kwezakhiwo zengqondo;
- ukungakholelwa kuwe namandla abo;
- Ithonya elibi labanye, izihlobo.
Amandla angenakuqhathaniswa anomthwalo osindayo amanga emahlombe futhi awanikezi ukuphumula. Kwesinye isikhathi umuntu akakwazi ukuziqaphela ngenxa yengcindezi yezengqondo yezihlobo noma imvelo eseduze. Kulokhu, udinga ukuguqula indawo yokuhlala kanye nombuthano wokuxhumana ukuze afinyelele okuthile empilweni.
Abanye abantu "badonsa intambo" emsebenzini abangathandwa, ngoba uletha imali endaweni yokuhlala. Iminyaka iza, kepha akukho ukuzibona. Ngenxa yalokho, umuntu angawa njengokucindezelwa futhi angaphumi.
Ukuzibonakalisa kuyindlela eya endodeni yomuntu wonke. Lesi yisifiso somuntu ukuba afune. Lokhu kuyimpilo evumelana nawe, ukuqaliswa kwamandla emvelo. Kuyithuba lokuhamba ngendlela yalo, futhi ungabhukudi ngokugeleza kwempilo.
Isikhuthazo sokuzithuthukisa yisifiso se:
- Ukuzimisela;
- ukuziqinisa;
- ulwazi;
- Ezokuphepha;
- ukuzichaza.
Ubuntu bomuntu budinga inkululeko yokubonakaliswa kobuntu babo, ukuzichaza. Lokhu kungenziwa ngo-Art, ubuqambi bokubhala, ukunyakaza kwamavolontiya, njll. Indoda idinga ukuvela, ithuthukise ngokwayo futhi idale. Ngaphandle kokwanelisa lezi zidingo eziyisisekelo zomphefumulo, uqala ukungcola.
Ukuzithuthukisa kusiza:
- gcina ukukhula kwabo nokuthuthuka kwabo kwezemvelo ezingeni elifanele;
- Yiba nokuncintisana emphakathini, kubaluleke kakhulu emphakathini futhi ethandwa;
- Sekela ukuzithemba ezisezingeni eliphakeme;
- ukuzethemba empilweni.
Kodwa-ke, ukuzithuthukisa namafomu amasiko nama-aesthetic akufanele kudideke. Lezi yizinto ezihlukile. Kungalungiswa ngengokomoya, kepha kungazibonakalisa nganoma yiluphi uhlobo. Ukuzithuthukisa kusinika ithuba lokuhambisana nezikhathi, thatha noma yiziphi izinguquko ezingokoqobo eziseduze nasekusungulweni okusha.
Ukwenqaba kokuzenzela ukuthuthuka kumane nje kuyikhona.
Izingxenye zokuzithuthukisa
I-Psychology yanamuhla ihlanganyela nokuzenzela izingxenye eziningana:- okungokwenyama;
- ngokomzimba;
- engqondweni;
- ezenhlalo;
- ngokomoya;
- ubuhlakani;
- Ochwepheshe.
Ukuthuthuka Kwezomzimba kufaka ukuqeqeshwa kwe-musculature, ukukhuthazela kanye namandla. Ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba kuyindlela yokuphila enempilo, kuqinisa isimo sokuzivikela komzimba, ngcono inhlala-kahle.
Ukuthuthukiswa Kwengqondo ukuqeqeshwa kwamakhono ayo, sebenza ngememori nokucabanga. Ukuthuthuka ngokomoya kuwukucinga okushiwo impilo nakho konke okuxhumene nalo mqondo. Ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo kuyinto etholwayo yolwazi olusha namakhono.
Ukuthuthuka Komphakathi kuwukushintshwa kwezinga eliphakeme lesendlalelo senhlalo, ukukhushulwa kwezitebhisi zomsebenzi, ukunqoba ama-vertices amasha wezenhlalo, okwandisa igunya lakho.
Ukuthuthukiswa kobungcweti kuyinto etholwe ngemfundo eyengeziwe, ukukwazi amakhono amasha asebenzayo.
Ezingeni eliqondakalayo, umuntu ukhetha ngqo ukuqondiswa kobuntu bokuzithuthukisa, obangela impendulo ezweni lakhe elingaphakathi.
Izigaba zokuzithuthukisa
Inqubo evamile yokukhula komuntu siqu nokuzithuthukisa ayikho, njengoba umuntu ngamunye ekhula ngawodwana. I-Psychology ingakhombisa kuphela indlela ejwayelekile umuntu angahambisa ngayo:
- ukuqwashisa ngesidingo sezinguquko zangaphakathi;
- Khomba amaphutha akho adinga ukuguqulwa;
- beka ilitshe okudingeka uhambe kulo;
- nquma indlela yokufeza umphumela oyifunayo;
- Ukukhuthaza indlela ekhethiwe.
Cabanga ngalezi zinyathelo ngokuningiliziwe.
Ukuqwashisa ngesidingo soshintsho
Ukuqwashisa ngesidingo soshintsho lwangaphakathi kuyadingeka ukuze kuqale ukuhamba kule ndlela. Uma umuntu engaqondi ukuthi udinga ukuzithuthukisa, ngeke amfune. Kulesi sigaba, isimo sengqondo esibucayi maqondana nawe sibalulekile:
- Umuzwa wokunyathela endaweni, ukuntuleka kwentuthuko kuze kube yilapho kusonakaliswa;
- ukungachazi kwangaphakathi kokukhathazeka kwangaphakathi;
- Ukuhlehlisa amacala aqakathekileko ngokuzayo;
- Ukuvela kwemikhuba emibi.
Umuntu uqala ukuzwa ukuthi akenzi ibhizinisi lakhe. Lokhu kuholela enkambisweni nasekuxinekeni, umuzwa wokungasho lutho nokungabi nalutho. Impilo idlula, indoda ivele yanamathela endaweni eyodwa. Kuphakathi kwesimo sokungenathemba kungahambisana nokuntuleka kwanoma iyiphi inhloso nesifiso sokulwela phambili kuma-Horighton amasha.
Ukunambitheka kwempilo kuyanyamalala. Lesi yisibonakaliso esibi sokuthi udinga ukushintsha okuthile ngokuphuthumayo.
Ngokulandelayo kungahle kubonakale umuzwa ongaqondakali wokukhathazeka ngaphakathi, ngaphandle kwanoma yisiphi isizathu. Ukukhathazeka kungenza njalo futhi kungene ekucindezelekeni. Uma ukucindezelwa kuhlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwezinsuku ezimbili, udinga ukuxhumana ngochwepheshe kosizo ukuze uthole usizo. Ukuze ungafiki kudokotela wezifo zengqondo, udinga ukuphendukela kudokotela wezengqondo ngesikhathi.
Ukuvela kwemikhuba emibi kungumzamo wokugcwalisa okungenamsebenzi kwangaphakathi okungenani okuthile noma ukhohlwe nje. Kungaba umlutha kagwayi noma utshwala, "ukulengiswa" ezinkundleni zokuxhumana noma imidlalo. Lesi yisiginali yokugcina okudingeka ushintshe ngokuphuthumayo okuthile empilweni.
Sesha ukushiyeka
Ukuhamba ngendlela yokuzithuthukisa nokuzithuthukisa, kuyadingeka ukuqonda ukuthi yikuphi ukushiyeka okufanele kuqedwe noma kuphenduke isithunzi. Okubi kubaphazamiseka endleleni yokuthuthuka komuntu, izimbangela zokulahleka kanye nokwehluleka.Azivumeli ukuthi zivezwe ngokuphelele amandla angaphakathi futhi zibe imbangela yokungagculiseki impilo ngokwazo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kulesi sigaba ukunquma ukuqondiswa okudingeka uhambe kuyo.
Uma ukwesekwa kwangaphakathi kudingeka, ungafuna usizo kwinkolo, psychology noma esoteric. Ukutadisha kwalezi zindawo kuzosiza ekutholeni ukuzethemba kwangaphakathi namandla okunqoba ukuphazamiseka okuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.
Ukubeka Umgomo
Le ncazelo kufanele ibe yisikhathi esizayo, lapho kufanele khona futhi kufike kuphi ekugcineni umuntu. Lesi sigaba sabaningi siba nje isikhubekiso, ngoba bambalwa abantu abakwaziyo ukuthi bafuna ngokuqondile. Kulula ukuthi abantu babone ukuthi yini abangayifuni kunokubeka umgomo ocacile futhi banqume ukuqondiswa kokunyakaza.
Ukungabikho kwegoli kuphetha ngezikhalazo ngempilo, ukuthola unecala ngokuhluleka kwazo, imihlatshelo. Ngokuhlelwa kwengqondo okunjalo, akunakuba khona ukukhuluma ngokuzithuthukisa nokuthuthuka.
Kuyadingeka ukwazi ngokucacile ukuthi ufunani empilweni. Ukuthola lokhu, udinga ukubhala yonke into eshidi elilodwa konke okungahambelani. Kwelinye ishidi, kuyadingeka ukuchaza kahle isithombe esizayo, okufanele silwele.
Nquma indlela yokufeza umphumela
Lokhu kungaba ukufundwa kwezincwadi ezizimele ekuzithuthukisweni noma ekuqopheni kokuqeqeshwa, noma ukutholwa kwezinhlelo zomsindo ngokuqoshwa kwezitimela. Ukuze intuthuko ihambe ngokushesha nangendlela efanele, udinga ukucabanga kabusha umbuthano wakho wokuxhumana.
Abanye abantu kungenzeka bangadubuli nje ukusuka endaweni ekhethiwe, kodwa futhi badilize phansi. Ngakho-ke, kuzodingeka wenze indlela ebaluleke kakhulu kulo magazini futhi wenze ukukhetha phakathi kobungane nendoda nokuzithuthukisa. Akudingekile ukuthi kuphazamise ukuxhumana okuphazamisayo: ungavele wehlise kancane kancane umuntu koxhumana nabo.
Ozoba Khetha Abangane? Lokhu kufanele kube ngabantu abaphumelele endleleni yokuzithuthukisa futhi bafinyelela imiphumela ethile. Lapha udinga ukufinyelela, ukuxhumana nabo. Abangani abasha bangatholakala kumaforamu angu-thematic noma amanethiwekhi omphakathi.
Ukukhushulwa endleleni
Umphumela ngeke uzuze uma umane nje uzikhawulele ekufundeni izincwadi. Kuyadingeka ukwenza futhi asebenze ekusebenzeni okufundile ezifundweni nezincwadi. Ukuthi umphumela uyazibonakalisa, kuzodingeka ukuthi usebenze kanzima.Uma ukhethe ukuthuthukiswa komzimba, udinga ukulandela impilo enempilo (s), kuningi kakhulu ukwenqaba futhi uphile ngendlela entsha yosuku. Ngakho-ke, zilungiselele isenzo, ngaphandle kwalokho iphupho lizoshintsha futhi lizohlala liphupha. Khumbula ukuthi ukuzithuthukisa kuyinqubo eqhubekayo, izinsuku eziyisikhombisa ngesonto neholide.
Yini engavimbela ukuthuthuka
Lapho nje umuntu enquma ukuguqula okuthile ukuze ashintshe noma ashintshe impilo yakhe, zonke izinhlobo zokuphazamiseka nezingqinamba zivela ngokushesha. Ngubani ongeke achithwe ukuqala impilo entsha kusuka ngoMsombuluko? Abaningi abakaze bayiqale.
Ukuphazamiseka Okusemqoka:
- Ukulengiswa ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, nge-patime engenalutho kwi-Intanethi;
- ukungakwazi ukunqoba ubuvila, obuphenduka ukuba buqine kakhulu kunendlela eqinile;
- Izimo zokucindezela ezingapheli ezithatha amandla nesikhathi;
- okuhlangenwe nakho okungekuhle esikhathini esidlule, inkumbulo yokwehluleka namaphutha;
- Isifiso sokulawula ngokuphelele impilo yakho.
Khumbula ukuthi ubeke umgomo wokuba ngcono, ngakho-ke ukuphuma endleleni ngenxa yokuphazamiseka akunangqondo. Faka indlela enhle futhi uqaphele ukuthi manje impilo yakho yonke izoba ngaphansi komgomo - ukuzithuthukisa nokuzithuthukisa.